I guess some people are naturally drawn to drama because they love it. They are addicted to the rush that comes with intrigues and arguments. They get excited with the emotional highs. Without this, they find life so boring. This article is not for those who love drama. This is for those like me who hate it. I hate it because I've been there.
We attract who we are on the inside. If we are full of uncertainties, we also attract people who are unsure about themselves. Therefore, if we are full of pent up anger inside, or insecurities, we will attract those who have the same issues.
?Drama is heightened emotions. Everything gets magnified because of unresolved issues within. If you say the same thing to two people: one who is riddled with issues; the other one with resolved issues, the one with issues may get offended, while the other one may not even think anything bad about it. This is exactly what is going on around us today. People are easily offended because of heightened emotions, resulting in drama galore.
If you want to avoid drama, then stop inviting it. Here is my list of things to do to get rid of drama in your life.
Start with yourself.
Resolve your own issues first so that you won't attract people with the same issues. Release forgiveness to those you haven't forgiven. Release any negativity in your life. Make a choice to get healed from anything that is causing you to feel angry, depressed, anxious, or anything that brings about your heightened emotions.
Stay clean and sober.
Seriously, the most dramatic people I've seen are those who are intoxicated with alcohol or high on drugs, including weed. You can justify weed for all you want because it is legal. Been there, done that. I was the most emotional when I was on it. And how many times have I drank alcohol with people who were best friends with me when we were drinking, but totally forget about me when they are back to normal? I myself used to call old friends while drunk telling them how I miss or love them, but then forget about them. What is that? I almost lost my marriage because of alcohol. And now that my husband and I are clean, smoke-free, and sober, the drama is gone!
Hang out with the right people.
You have the right to choose the people you want to surround yourself with. Don't get carried away with, "what kind of a friend are you?" or "you've changed". Just move on and start anew. People who are full of drama will drag you down. If your spouse is the one who is causing all the drama, seriously, put your foot down for the sake of your marriage. A person who is full of drama is very unstable and needs stability. Putting your foot down will help a lot. Of course, you yourself need to set the example.
Choose your battles.
It is so easy to get carried away with politics, religion, race issues, and other controversial topics. Again, been there, done that. I've learned how to bite my tongue so as not to say anything, or stop my fingers from typing. So, if you want to announce your political affiliation on social media or react to something you do not approve of, be ready for drama.
The Eighth Principle in my book, Simplify to Intensify is "Be Objective, not Reactive". This chapter presents a more in-depth explanation on how we can always remain objective. You may want to check that out.
Getting involved in drama is not only exhausting but is a waste of time. It is very self-centered and will drag you down. Get away from it and eventually you will get rid of it. Consider the tips I gave here. It's been tried and tested. I am now drama-free! And even if it comes near me, it flees as quickly as it came.
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