It doesn’t matter how confident you are or how sure you are that you will get the job that you’re going to be interviewed for. The fact of the matter is: Job Interviews can be scary. In fact, it can be scarier for those who really want the job.
I will never forget a client who cried when I was asking her questions for her Resume-Cover Letter. I thought she just got nervous with the way I was probing. I held her hand and said, “Don’t be scared. I’m just bringing out from you what’s already there inside of you. I want to create a Resume and Cover Letter that will rightfully represent who you are.” She said, “I just really want that job so bad.”
Another client of mine told me that she seems to have a mental block during an interview, and that in itself makes her scared. I remember asking her, “Do you know the verse, ‘Out of the abundance of the heart, the mouth speaks?’” “No,” she said. That’s when I began to explain to her what I will share with all of you reading this article.
First off, almost all blogs you’ll read about preparing for a job interview talk about what interviewers normally ask, and how you should prepare for that. This is not the purpose of this blog. Instead, what I will focus on is having the right heart and mind for the interview.
So, let’s go back to “out of the abundance of the heart, the mouth speaks”.
What’s in your thoughts go down to your heart; and what’s in your heart goes out of your mouth. Therefore, a successful interview comes from the heart out; but it all begins in your mind.
Having the right mindset
The right mindset starts in having a positive outlook about applying for a job. No matter how desperate you are for a certain job, know that it needs you in as much as you need it. You need to reverse your thinking from “I really need and want that job” to “That job needs someone like me.”
Having the right mindset also means keeping an open mind. Don’t hold yourself hostage to any job, even if it’s your dream job. There are so many options out there for you. If you don’t get accepted, it simply means that there is a better opportunity right around the corner.
When you have this mindset, you are not carrying a desperate attitude, which feeds your heart and comes out of your mouth. That desperate mindset creates feelings of fear that can make you go blank or so unsure during the job interview.
Let me give you a few tips on having the right mindset as preparation for a job interview.
1. Write down Affirmative Statements.
Write down affirmative statements everyday, until the day of the interview.
I am the (job title) of (company name).
Example: I am the Finance Manager of XYZ Corporation.
Writing this down everyday will condition your mind, and will shift it from where it is now to where it should be.
2. Spend Quiet Time.
Condition your mind by spending the first or last few hours of the day in a quiet spot alone. Use this time to quiet your mind and meditate.
My meditation is not ritualistic. It is as simple as praying to God … not repetitious or cliché prayers but a prayer of thanksgiving. I thank Him for who He has been to me by focusing on things I can be thankful for.
For example, by simply looking at what I have materially, I begin to thank Him for being my provider.
This prayer of thanksgiving is very uplifting. It shifts your mind to an attitude of gratitude.
I also use this time alone to read something that will lift me up. Personally, nothing beats reading the Bible. However, I don’t read it like it’s some textbook. I read it like God is personally telling me something.
Journaling has also helped me collect my thoughts during this quiet time. Honestly, this time is the purest my mind can get, and where all my best ideas come from.
When you get into the habit of this ‘quiet time’, you will have the kind of mindset that will get you through successfully in any job interview. You will reach a point of stability and confidence that’s unshaken.
3. Choose what goes in your mind.
Whatever your eyes see and ears hear goes inside your mind. To have the right mindset is to control what goes inside your mind.
“Whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable, if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things.” (Philippians 4:8)
You may not be in control of what goes on around you, but you can control what you allow to enter your mind.
There’s a difference between a confidence that comes from the inside-out and one that’s just on the outside. The confidence that comes from the inside-out is the result of a renewed mindset.
Knowing your value
Earlier I said that you need to reverse your thinking from “I really need and want that job” to “That job needs someone like me.” I know this is something that can make someone feel like he or she is so condescending.
It’s how you look at it that will make you have the right frame of mind.
Look at it from a ‘service’ orientation.
What service are you willing to offer a company? How can you be of help to them? How can you make things better for them?
When you look at it this way, you are not merely talking highly of yourself; you are offering a service because you want to be of help.
Knowing your value means knowing what you can do to help others. And when you know your value, you will feel more confident about yourself in a substantial way.
Finding your shared values
I always suggest to my clients to make sure that the values of the company they want to apply for line up with their own personal values. Never work for an employer whose values will clash with yours, or will totally oppose what you believe in. It’s not worth it.
This is why you need to do your research. On the job post, look for what the company believes in. If it’s not on the job post, go to their website and look for “About us” or “Culture and Values” or anything related to these. If their values align with yours, go for it!
Once you read their values and know that these line up with yours, visualize yourself working for the organization and living those values. Visualize how you see yourself as an employee fulfilling the vision and mission of the organization. Think of scenarios in the job that will give you these opportunities to apply the corporate values.
By doing these, you will internalize the culture of the company, which will naturally reflect on your answers during your interview.
ANYTHING CAN GO WRONG. There is no way of telling what can happen during an interview. No matter how prepared you are, something can go wrong. The interviewer may not like you simply because you remind her of the woman her boyfriend cheated on her with. Perhaps the person doing the interview is not in a good mood. The list can go on. You may not be able to control your external environment, but you can control your internal environment. This is the whole point of this article. When you have the right frame of mind, then you will have the right “feelings” that will affect how you project yourself, and what will come out of your mouth. THERE IS NO SUCH THING AS REJECTION. When you have the right frame of mind, there is no such thing as rejection. Every closed door presents another open door. You will begin to see the job interview as an opportunity for you to be a blessing to someone, to build a relationship, to sow some seeds of kindness, or simply to learn something new. Nothing is wasted.
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