Our country is hurting right now ... individually and corporately.
As a Coach/Consultant, my mind has been trained to see things objectively. I don't simply react when I see things. I step back, rise above the situation, and look at the bigger picture.
It is amazing how our personal callings connect with the things we've been through in life. The Coach side of me has been harnessed not only through my professional experience but through my own life experience.
Isn't this what makes us more effective? If I were to choose a marriage counselor, who will I choose: someone who has a PhD but has never been married, or someone who has been through tough times in her marriage and overcame? Will I trust a man more than a woman when it comes to emotional issues of women?
This is where I am coming from with what I'm seeing in our country right now. I am coming from the place of a Coach who sees things objectively, and from my own personal experiences.
One thing that makes me very effective as a Success Coach is my transparency. It makes people relate to me. It makes them see how the personal and professional connect with each other. When one suffers, the other one is affected.
I started my consulting business in the late 90's. I was newly divorced with two young sons to take care of. I was determined to succeed. My work became my outlet. I buried my hurts, anger, and pain so deep that no one on the outside knew what was going on inside of me. My clients then were big corporations, and I was dealing with their organizational problems. When I walked into a room, people respected me. I projected so much strength on the outside, but no one knew, not even me, that I was crumbling inside. I put up that very strong and confident front for so long that I didn't know I had so many pent-up emotions inside of me.
It was in 2007 when I remarried, and took a backseat from my very busy career/business. In 2010 I started a Professional Writing business, which eventually brought back my Coaching/Consulting services. It was in this marriage when my unresolved issues resurfaced. Only then did I become aware that I needed inner healing so bad. My husband had his own share of unresolved issues from his painful past. Both of us brought it to the table, without us knowing about it, until the day we almost lost our marriage. That was the beginning of our respective and corporate healing.
Taking this personal experience and using it to understand the pain that our country is going through makes me see lots of parallelism.
Most of us don't realize the depths of our pain and hurt until something drastic happens. When we reach this point, we have two choices to make: to accept that we need healing, or to just keep fighting while the wounds remain unhealed.
It was not an easy process for me when I had to finally face my fears. I remember crying endless nights, wanting to just run away, or bury things again. The resurfacing of issues was more painful than the hurts inflicted to me. Yet, I wanted to save my marriage. I knew that I had to do something about my issues. It was so easy for me to put the blame on my husband, just as I've done in the past blaming my ex and my father. But I was too tired to do that same old thing.
One thing that encouraged me to continue with my healing was an inner voice telling me: YOUR OWN HEALING WILL GIVE WAY TO THE HEALING OF OTHERS AROUND YOU. Though I didn't completely understand, I believed it.
The inner healing I went through was a process: first was the shaking up, second was the realization and awakening, third was the acceptance matched with resistance, fourth was the full surrender no matter what, fifth was the pulling out of deep-seated issues, sixth was the clean-up, and seventh was the recovery.
The full proof of my healing came when I saw my husband heal, followed by the healing of his dad, which coincided with the healing of my son. There were back-to-back healing as well that happened to my siblings. It was truly a ripple-effect.
If I were to explain this in a more logical way, it just makes sense that others around me also experienced healing.
My own pain and anger were getting in the way of my message.
When I healed, I was able to communicate and express myself to others without any issue hindering me. The peace that came with the healing was so powerful. It still shocks me to this day.
What our nation needs right now is for each individual to look from within. It all starts from our "self". If we want to be effective to even initiate any change, and to see it come to pass, we need to heal first as individuals.
Again, I am speaking from my personal experience, which I believe gives me the credibility to say so.
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