There was something about this summer that made it so special. It coincides with the publishing of my book, Simplify to Intensify. Yet, it was more than just the book in itself, but a whole new outlook in life that has come to fruition.
I was greeted by a pleasant surprise in Spring, as a precursor to the great blessings of Summer. It was almost like an announcement of what was to come. My husband got me this nice flower basket after mother's day, and another mama fell in love with it. I spotted her one morning as I was spending my quiet time. I looked out the window and realized that she was flying back and forth to build her nest. For the next few weeks, I watched and waited as she laid her eggs and until the babies hatched. I saw them learn how to fly, until the time that they didn't come back anymore. It was the first time I ever witnessed the birth of birds and their fledging as well ... an experience made more beautiful because of a mindshift that has taken place inside of me.
This mindshift that I'm talking about is a whole new outlook in life that I shared in my book, a coming to terms with what really matters most in my life.
You see, I've always wanted to have a good marriage as far as I can remember. Witnessing the love of my dad and mom made me want it so bad, even at a young age. Yet, my wrong choices and rebellion led me farther away from this true love that I've dreamed of.
Then one day, just when I was ready to be single for the rest of my life, God began to stir up my heart. I saw my future husband in a vision, before I even met him in person. Our first meeting led to a beautiful friendship that grew over the years of a long-distance on and off relationship.
You would think that with what we've been through just to be together in marriage will make us appreciate each other and take care of our God-given relationship. Well, it didn't happen that way during our early years. Our respective deep-seated issues brought about a lot of disagreements that almost led to a divorce. Yes, we overcame divorce, but the healing was a process that we had to go through individually and as a couple. This healing brought me to this new place ... a place where I've always wanted to be.
This Summer 2019 is the fruition of our healing. It's almost like the floodgates of heaven were opened to release the promises of God that were held back for some time. I saw miracles in our families happen left and right. Doors of opportunities and financial blessings flung open as well.
The most important harvest of all is what has become of my marriage. From motorcycle rides to walks on different trails and parks, to our trip to the ocean, I enjoyed every bit of it. I feel like I have a new pair of eyes that see the powerful beauty of small things that I barely noticed before.
Because there are no more deep-seated issues that get in the way, my husband and I are able to enjoy each other. Because of our clean and sober life, we are able to savor the purity and realness of our love. My healing surely brought me back to where I started -- my dream of being married to a man who I can spend honeymoon with every single day.
I finally came back to WHAT MATTERS MOST to me, next to God.
This realization is the reason why I am enjoying every moment I spend with my husband, and the reason why we prioritize our marriage. With this prioritization comes the sacrifices we have to make, including pursuing our own personal agendas. It is a choice that both of us made, a choice that came as a result of our near divorce, a choice that we reached because of our exhaustion in keeping up with the demands of life that people themselves created.
The more healed we got, the more simple our lives became, and the more powerful it turned into. Even picking blueberries or getting a tray of strawberries turned into activities that we got so excited about.
I will never forget those times when after coming home from work, and while I was still busy with my work, my husband would ask me if I wanted to go on a motorcycle ride with him. Those were times when I dropped what I was doing to have some clean, fun time with the man I dreamed to be with. And oh boy ... those rides along the bay and lakes as the heat of the sun and the wind coming from the waters blew on my face are moments worth living for.
Come to think of it, I waited so long to be with the man of my dreams. And if I spend more time doing other things and neglect our marriage, how will I feel at the end of my life or his life?
After what we've been through, I do want to spend the rest of my life enjoying moments with him like it was the last day.
Now that Summer 2019 is almost over, I am ready to welcome Fall ... another beautiful season to enjoy life with my husband.
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